I am currently reading Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements for perhaps the 10th time. I re-read it every year, and have owned it about 10 years. Simplistic yet profound, Ruiz offers wisdom and teachings on how to live a life of abundance, peace, and serenity.
At first glance, the 4 agreements look easily achievable. In truth, it’s hard work, and in order for change to occur, the agreements must be integrated into every aspect of your life, until they become habits, a way of living. I continue to lapse, but less and less frequently. The agreements are as follows:
- Be impeccable with your word
- Don’t take anything personally
- Don’t make assumptions
- Always do your best
I try to focus on an agreement for each week. This week it was number 2, “don’t take anything personally.” I did fairly well at the beginning of the week, but had a major slip mid-week when I allowed myself to be let down by a co-worker. I took personally an incident that had nothing to do with me. Later in the week a friend called to cancel an event that we had planned on attending. Again, reacting to this news, I felt rejection and hurt, taking it personally, and creating scenarios in my mind.
At an early age we are impacted by the behaviors, words, and opinions of others. It is a slow and arduous task to live in immunity from those actions and opinions. We must learn to undo and un-think many habits and beliefs we’ve held since childhood!
Miguel Ruiz gets it. He is very forgiving. Progress is slow. Old habits linger. Change is difficult.
Challenge yourself!. Choose and agreement and agree to work on it for a day, or a week, or longer. Amaze yourself as your awareness broadens.